Success and Failure

Fear and respect are two things that never go hand in hand together. But what is most amazing about it is that although we all seem to agree with it at earlier stages in our lives, many of us start believing that instilling fear is the right way to gain respect from people, as we climb the ladder of success. Success happens to be the biggest friend as well as foe of a person It can bring you in a delusional world where you think that you are the best and you are without you the entire system will fail. Well, all of us aren’t Steve Jobs. Are we? And even if we are still it is important to realize that however important we might be for the system to function efficiently, but our departure does nothing more than give a small setback to the system and it gets back to its usual way by adapting and it would seem as if we never existed in the entire system of events and we were just meaningless. Realisation of the fact that I am just a facilitator for the system to function smoothly and nothing more is what instills humility in us. Although I completely agree to disagree that we all are replaceable, but I also disagree to agree that the entire system of which we are a part of will fail with our exit.

You see, I have always believed that there are just two reasons for the failure of the system. It is because we believe in the two rules. One, the person at the helm is always right. Two, if you think that the person at the helm is wrong, refer to rule one. The day the views and opinions of each and every person in the system in being incorporated, that day the system has the capacity to function efficiently. Easy said than done. After all the coefficient of friction can never be zero. The final decision can be by the person at the helm but the views and opinions of others ought to be valued.

Fear of the person at helm not only is harmful to the system but also to the people who fear and the people who are being feared. Whereas respect among each and every single constituent of the system is what differentiates success and failure of an entire system. There is a very thin line between fear and respect and we need to realize that just like there is between confidence and over-confidence.

In a nutshell, we need to realize that the system is above us and that it is respect more than fear that is the key to success. After all, who doesn’t wants to be successful?

Realization of Purpose

Hi, I am back.. to tell you all that happened today. Yesterday my exams ended  and in comparison t that my day wasn't as exciting as one would have expected it to be. It was just a typical day. enjoyment, opportunities but more than that it was a day of realisation of a sense of purpose. 

All these days when i was busy preparing for the examinations i knew that what i had to do and how i had to do it. But what i definitely didn't know was that after my exams would be over i would be stripped of the purpose. And today for a moment when that sense of purpose vanished it was scary and it made me realise the importance of having a purpose and an agenda with to which to approach life.

It took me a while before i decided that i needed to move forward with the rent me book thing and work towards that. but before that i didn't know what to do for a moment and trust me it was more scary than studying for those exams. 

Well you know we all have a purpose of existence. Whether we know it or not we all have a certain purpose to our lives and it is this purpose that helps us take strides in our life and do thing that we do in our lives. Take you for an example, had you not been there i would have succumbed ages ago. Had you not been there, I don't know if i would have been able to share anything with anybody in my life and you happen to be my best friend and you know everything about me. More that anybody ever did and yeah once again thanks for being a part of my life. 

Even a small ant has a purpose when it carries molasses 5 times its weight to its colony. It wants its colony to flourish and  the same time even a lioness has a purpose of killing those deers as she has to feed her hungry cubs. It is the purpose of feeding her cubs that drives her towards fulfilling the task and had this purpose not existed, would she have killed the deer with the same vigour and ferocity she kills the deer now.

Me? you want to know my purpose of existence.. i haven't yet figured out but i do hope it is to bring about good changes in the lives of people and bring happiness in others lives. :)

End Sem trauma

End sems are the time when everybody ought to be busy studying and a time when life ought to be nothing but hell. But you know what.. end sems are not as bad as they are projected. They are more like one night stands with the books. Well it is not as cool as it sounds nor as scary as it may appear.
End semester examination are just a part and parcel of the entire semester and ad actually they are wquite fun. studying with friends.. late night studies.. entire night studies.. facing the fear of failing together with friends. At the end of the day it is actually all this taht strengthens your friendship.

Well my end semester examinations ar going on now.. and trust me.. I wish that they would have never come. But today i just gave my third exam and we have a 2 day break for the next examination, kind of a celebration day but i really ask you is this end sem trauma worth it.. When i think of it.. what did i actually study in my last exams.. i cant remember any thing.. not even the grades i got.. those grades are supposed to mean the most to me right? but if even i don't happen to remember them then how do i expect it to matter it to somebody else. and if  i don't expect it to matter to somebody else so much then why is it given so much value. NO.. i am not writing this entry against the examination and education system but why does it not matters.. why still i give so much importance to something that no longer holds any significance to me. OK i agree not to disagree that it will have a big role to play 2 and a half years for now when i sit in those placement interviews. But just so as to impress someone else and to prove to someone else i should do something that i find a total waste of time.
Now that i s what i actually used to think.. kinda revolutionary..? But i wish others agreed and i didn't had to do all this bullshit studies . things that i know might be of use to me in the future (mind you whatever you learn has got to be of some use to you in the future.. somehow or the other .. well this reminds me of a small story..
It so happened that there was this one story of Khalil Gibran.. ti tiled the 'Madman'.. i loved it.. one of the best short stories i have managed to get my hands on.. and i guess i had read it for so many times that i nearly memorised it.. and it had clung on to my mind like a moss.. but only this time i loved it.. and then there was this competition where i was in the dramatics competition and we had won the first prize and one member for the team was allowed a wild card entry into the interview round of the Wiz team .. and i ended up qualifying  for the stage round in the city finals which took place in front of a whooping 3k crowd and all this drama.. interview .. stage round.. in one day.. hectic.. wusshhh.. and then there was this talent performance round and it was then i realised that i didn't had anything ready unlike others who had been preparing it for weeks and all i had got was 90 minutes.. i decided to recite Madman. I did win that but had it not been for madman i wouldn't have and that changed my life forever, who knows this better than you do.. after all you have been my best friend since i don't know how long.. )
see... i again deviated from the topic and you didn't even scold me..
with time i have realised that it is better to do some things the way the society wants and expects you to.. After all I am not strong enough to be Fyodor's Ediot.