FRIENDSHIP

CHOOSING THE RIGHT FRIENDS

choosing Friends .. choosing the right friends is very important. friends are an integral part of a persons life. they are often a deciding factor in the direction in which ones life goes.the kind of friends you have defines you.. this is exactly what i have been hearing since .. umm i started meeting people my age, 

well i don't know whether i am right or wrong . but i believe that more than the fact that your friend circle defines you, it is you who define your friend circle. a person would end up having friends who share the same mindset as he does. one might get involved or befriend people who do not share the same thought as he does or believes in stuffs that he disapproves of.. but that would last only for a short duration of time.as problems would start arising. well then some of you might be wondering then what do i have to say about the innumerable examples of people getting in ' bad ' company ( firstly how do you define a company as bad .. its relative.. for terrorists we are bad and for us they are.. but yeah . if you are talking in the moral sense then yeah bad company) i guess everybody wants to try out the stuffs that appear 'cool' and that is when you start getting involved in the group of people you do not or did not approve of before. i believe that people are never born bad it is the situations and the surroundings they have to deal with daily that end up making them bad. similarly, even people who get involved with the kind of people who are 'bad' they adjust to the surroundings and they get 'destroyed' in their company.

cmon, now i am contradicting my own words .. well the will and the belief in your conscience is the key here.. if you believe what you are doing is not right that is you have conscience inside you , ( which by the way everybody does have) and the will to do what is right.then it is you who decides your friend circle,..in fact if you have these two .. you don't need to'choose' them , it is all automatic in this autonomous 21st century.

when i started writing this post, i had something else in mind and i ended up writing something else.. funny .. isn't it. the multiple directions in which brain can work

choosing friends..it is often said .. one must choose ones friends wisely.. but you don't choose them. with time ..before you realise they have become your friends. a person never goes to some place thinking that this is the kind of friend i have to make..( or does anybody?) it is time that strengthens the bonds of friendship and at the same time weakens the clutches of rivalry.. it is time that chooses the friends for you.. the only thing you can do is just be yourself and not pretend to be someone else. sometimes it might happen that you want to become part of a group and you do not. you may feel sad about it. but how many of us really ponder over why we weren't able to be a part of that group. maybe because we didn't fit into that group or maybe that group wasn't ready to accept you.. but does it matters?. there are another 7 billion people you can befriend.( or aren't there)..and eventually you will end up being among people whose company you enjoy and rarely does it happen that you decide .. mostly its by chance that you meet that person and he or she becomes a part of you life and you just enjoy their company throughout your life..

MORALLY CONSCIOUS

CONSCIENCE

it was not long ago .. some 4 months i guess when i came to this place, a place which is believed to be the heaven for the young generation, a place which has its own charisma, its own life, everybody who has spent time here does has a lot of memories to share and tell the heroic tales he or she has done or witnessed in this place, tales that will go down well with the folklore in the coming next 8 to 10 years, a place that has its ow share of stress and happy moments that get so deeply imbibed int the memories of people that they often find even the thought of parting with it and going to their homes scary.( OK i admit initially everyone is home sick), it is one of those very few places that somehow or the other always manages to meet the expectations that every single person has from this place.. and even when someone leaves this place he is a totally changed person.. just like a moth transforms into a butterfly ..well this place is often known to people as an ENGINEERING college.. and to me,.. umm mirror.

a mirror.. hmm why a mirror.. for me this place is a paradise for those who always keep their eyes open for opportunities. for excelling in fields other than academics. it allows you to analyse yourself where you stand among people of the same capability as u.. people who are at par with you.people who end up being one of your best friends in the long run of time, well people from all over the country. a diverse country as India .. you gotta believe even after 700 students there are still parts of 'indian' diversity that is not present here. and to add that there are people from various parts of the world including the gulf countries.. which allows you to know about them, their culture their thoughts the surroundings in which they have been brought up.. but i have to admit more than that .. i love their food..food form various parts of country and i need not mention they are definitely delicious as they are prepared by utmost love and care by the mothers.. ( at first i thought typical Indian mothers..stereotypes.. mindset.. mothers have got to be the same all over the world right !) .. since i have really deviated from the topic that i was talking about .. lets get back to it. in one way you get to face the difficulties yourself.. for the first time your biggest shield in your childhood ... your parents are not there with you on every single issuer.. you learn to solve them yourself.. make yourself efficient .. but most important of them all you get to analyse yourself as every child is the best child in their parents point of view.. you start paying heed to what people think about you and if they think something bad.. you try to change that .. in order to become a better person ( actually to become a better person in their point of view). you start maturing .. but there is one thing that still makes me bite my nails and scratch my head.. our parents brought up,.. right.. why cant we trust them that they must have brought us well and .. not i guess one should not change according o the wishes of the others... but on second thought even gangsters were raised by their parents.. are they right.. confused.. so am i.. but then what is it that allows us to bring changes in ourselves and if we bring changes are we doubting our parents upbringing. no is the answer. we are just listening to our conscience.. 

its important to bring changes in yourselves.. its important to do mistakes and learn from those mistakes.. but its all the more important to bring changes not because somebody else thinks it is right or wrong.. changes need to be brought only when one's conscience thinks that it is wrong, only when you get that feeling internally that this is not the way this is to be done and it is a total no no.. .. but is it something to be felt ashamed of that i did something wrong.. no . but it is something..... definitely something to be felt ashamed of if i don't correct the mistake and ensure that i don't do it in the future.
conscience is a topic of morals . often uninteresting.. at least i find them so..but i guess it is fine to sometimes even ponder over the reason for the bore ..